The original post only has US helplines. I've added UK helplines underneath. It would be great if people could add numbers from everywhere in the world.
Eating Disorders Hotline:
Rape and Sexual Assault:
1-800-843-5200, 1-800-843-5678, 1-800-621-4000
After Abortion Hotline/Pro-Voice: 1-866-4394253
Samaritans (for any problem):
08457909090 e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org
Childline (for anyone under 18 with any problem):
Mind infoline (mental health information):
0300 123 3393 e-mail: email@example.com
Mind legal advice (for people who need mental-health related legal advice):
0300 466 6463 firstname.lastname@example.org
b-eat eating disorder support:
0845 634 14 14 (only open Mon-Fri 10.30am-8.30pm and Saturday 1pm-4.30pm) e-mail: email@example.com
b-eat youthline (for under 25's with eating disorders):
08456347650 (open Mon-Fri 4.30pm - 8.30pm, Saturday 1pm-4.30pm)
Cruse Bereavement Care:
08444779400 e-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
Frank (information and advice on drugs):
Rape Crisis England & Wales:
0808 802 9999 1(open 2 - 2.30pm 7 - 9.30pm) e-mail email@example.com
Rape Crisis Scotland:
08088 01 03 02 every day, 6pm to midnight
India Self Harm Hotline:
India Suicide Helpline:
Kids Help Phone (Canada):
1-800-668-6868, Free and available 24/7
Anonymous asked: why are you a feminist???
because people are still asking that question
because women are payed less than men in approximately 99% of professions
because chris brown can still have a career after assaulting rihanna but miley cyrus takes her clothes off and there’s a huge scandal
because of this:
because currently it is estimated ten million more girls are out of education than boys (x)
because we’re expected to be mature but hairless like a child, in control but not bossy, sexy but not slutty and definitely not a prude, intelligent but not opinionated, independent but reliant on men, natural but look like the girl in the magazine etc etc
because being called a girl, a pussy or a bitch is an insult
because when i told my mum i refused to get anything less than a’s in my exams she told me it wasn’t ladylike to be so cocky
because my brother and 90% of my male friends think girls who wear revealing clothing are asking for rape
because every person who identifies as female should be allowed to choose if they want to get married, have kids, have a career, go to uni etc etc without expectations
because tampons and sanitary pads are stupidly expensive
because some people reading this will have flinched at the fact i just said ‘tampon’
because there are men out there whose job it is to make young girls feel like absolute shit about themselves just so they can sell the next best beauty product
because female masturbation isn’t considered normal whilst men can talk about their own penises for hours on end
because feminists are still seen as crazy lesbians who dont shave and some still feel like they have to defend themselves by claiming theyre not any of those things when in fact if i want to be a passionate lady who likes other ladies and cant be bothered to shave my legs every twenty minutes then thats my choice and if i want to be someone who wears make up and shaves and goes out partying then thats my choice and if i want to be a combination of the two or anything in between then thats. my. choice.
because i believe anyone who identifies as female is fucking badass and deserves the same rights as every privileged stuck up old white man sitting around and making laws about our bodies
because how can you not be
I agree with everything. You make fine, fine points. But I can’t help to add a little bit of my own words to this. I’m not trying to take away from anything you’ve said - I couldn’t have said it better myself!
But people, anyone who doesn’t identify as a feminist or recognize sexism (because it is SO normalized) or just has a horribly wrong idea of what feminism REALLY is….this is for you.
Men of the world, while this above should seriously concern you because I’m certain every single one of you has a loved one who’s female in your life, be it a wife, sister, mother, cousin, friend, lover, girlfriend, daughter, grandmother, etc… In case these aren’t reason enough for you to take a stand and to recognize blatant sexism of everyday life, I’ll give you more. This time, specifically attuned to your gender.
Don’t be afraid of the word Feminism. Feminism isn’t about making women the superior gender, and it’s certainly not just in favor of women and girls. What feminism wants to do is get rid of sexism altogether. And though that will take years (I mean we still live in a time where people are offended over a multi-lingual coke commercial because 'this is America - speak English'…..) that is the main goal.
This is why I believe in feminism.
Because men shouldn’t have to conform to stereotypical roles either. Because anytime a man shows any short of emotion other than anger he’s a ‘pussy’. Dudes, if you want to cry, it doesn’t make you any less of a man. If you’re a stay at home dad, if you work in the beauty industry, if you like to cook and clean and sew, if you like pedicures and going to the spa, THOSE don’t make you less of a men. The same way if I choose not to shave my legs and decide I’m going to grow out a beard (unfortunately I can’t do that) doesn’t make me any less of a woman.
Because men can be feminine OR masculine. My son (if I have one in the future) can be a Disney princess for Halloween (it better be Ariel) if that’s what he wants. And so can you. In fact, I’d probably offer to do your makeup. If he wants to be Thor, he can be that too.
Pink isn’t just for girls. I don’t even understand that. A color is a color. Did you know pink was originally a boys color? In all honesty, pink gives me a headache. I can only take so much of it. And blue is my favorite color. Since 5th grade.
Because wearing makeup, dressing nice, or wanting to take care of yourself in general doesn’t make you gay. You know what makes you gay? ACTUALLY BEING GAY (i.e. you’re a man who likes men…) And that gay men don’t have to play those roles. Also, ‘he’s sooo gay' is offensive. Wtf does that even mean?
Because men can be victims of rape, sexual abuse and harassment, and domestic abuse too. And often, it flies right under the radar because nobody takes it seriously or they’re embarrassed because ‘they’re men, they’re bigger and stronger, how could they not defend themselves?'
A little side note. I read an article about a man who was in an abusive relationship. He was battered by his wife. He took pictures and reported her. They went over and questioned the wife and she told a different story and they ultimately took her side. Didn’t even ask the children in this scenario which was true. Didn’t care to further investigate even though this man passed out from being beat (kicked in the head or something). That woman also still has the kids…
Because he was the man. That’s not justice.
Because of ‘boys will be boys’. Telling a girl or women to dress more modestly to not be raped is not only saying it’s her fault, she was asking for it but that men and boys obviously can’t control their actions. They’re all just bumbling idiots who think about sex 24/7. That’s what it tells society. That men can’t control themselves.
Because men who want to stay at home to take care of the house and children while the wife works are looked at the same way women who don’t want kids and want to focus on their career are looked at.
Because treating your girlfriend/wife with respect is sometimes called being ‘whipped’.
Because men are told to ‘Man up’ or ‘Be a Man’ when they maybe aren’t acting so tough or manly.
And all of that is unacceptable.
What I’m trying to say is, this is feminism. All of this (my words and the above’s words). Why should we assign expectations of people based on genitalia? It’s almost laughable, that’s how stupid it is.
And I do really want to add more based off the first answer, like how women are harassed daily on the street (and that it’s NOT a compliment) and etc…but maybe on another post another time.
I don’t think there is anything I can add to this, you’ve stolen the words straight out of my mouth. I don’t usually, ever, read anything this long to the end but I was captivated by every word. I want to write this on my wall and shout it to the world. People need to hear this.
i have to write an original fairy tale so help me out and finish the sentence
once upon a time
there were many tiny dragons
but exactly how many tiny dragons were there
that’s a lot of tiny dragons
I’m going to have to knit those baby dragons some little wooly jumpers.
If I become a tiny dragon, can I, too, get knitted a little wooly jumper?
"You only care about yourself" well duh who else is going to do it